Pride 2019 🏳‍ :rainbow:

hi I’m della

ah pride month, it was fun while it lasted but now we see it come to an end yet again.

as we put our flags and our rainbows away and get them prepared for pride 2020, let’s just take a few moments to appreciate a few things related to the lgbtq+

every one is different

I think this should be a no-brainer, but personally this pride I’ve discovered that everyone is so unique and beautifully different in their own ways, even to an extent that one bisexual is not the same as another. Just as one lesbian is different to another.

I found this out when I was attempting to explain to a friend what pansexuality was, but another friend ed the conversation and politely stated that she disagreed with my description. She had different tastes when it came to pansexuality.

it was intriguing to learn this but I’m glad I did learn it and will come away from the situation much more open minded then I had been before.

lgbt can include straight people in parades!

I don’t think it’s fair to say that only gay people can celebrate something. That’s like saying that only Christians can celebrate Christmas! Pride is something that is there for everyone to give it a go, discover themselves, meet new and amazing people, understand people and of course, to celebrate the freedom of diversity and true freedom of love!

my favourite performing art teacher went to pride this month with his best friend, who is gay. He is completely straight, but he still went as “straight ” which is a thing! Going to a pride parade as a straight person should not be daunting, embarrassing or scary! It should be exciting, a wonderful new experience and fun!

so next time you see a straight person at a pride parade, show them how welcoming and truly marvellous us queens are ;)

you don’t have to come out the closet

sadly bullying rates and suicide rates in the lgbtq+ is higher then in a straight persons. This is mainly because of people being homophobic, because of fears of coming out the closet, or because someone forced you out the closet.

encouraging and ing someone in this difficult time is crucial, but shoving someone out of the closet when they aren’t ready is terrible!

it should be their time to shine and up to them for when they want to come out and to who. Don’t steal their moment from them. That’s like celebrating someone’s birthday by taking their presents and blowing out their candles for them. The best you can do to help them is to show them that if things turn wrong, you are always there to give them hugs and love!

sometimes you may wonder

this year Daniel Howell, a well known British youtuber from the channel “Dan is not on fire”, “dan and Phil” and “dan and Phil games”, came out of the closet finally. Many of his subscribers and biggest fans had been suspicious about his sexuality, making him uncomfortable.

he mentioned in his coming out video that during his teen years he called himself bisexual just so he didn’t have to call himself gay. Because he was frightened. Can you blame him?

sometimes you may be certain of what you are and who you like, but some days you may start to question yourself and if you are sure that’s how you feel, and that’s ok!

questioning ourselves is a way of understanding ourselves and getting to know ourselves more and more. Some days I am completely certain that I am bisexual, but sometimes I wonder if I am a lesbian. Calling myself a lesbian makes me embarrassed and uncomfortable and scared of what people would think if I was. I often wonder if I’m in the same sticky situation as Dan. Maybe I’m too scared to it I’m gay too? Who knows!

you may question yourself for a day, or a week, or months, maybe 2 years, hell, maybe even 80 years.

you may never be sure of who you want to be or who you want to love. All I can say is live in the moment! No ones judging you, and if they are then it isn’t any of there business who you love or how you live! If you love women, go for it, if you love men, cool! If you love both, that’s awesome! If you love neither, that’s epic! If you love all sexualities or all sex’s that’s brilliant! If you people who are like this, even better!

some days you may like one thing, other days you may like the other. It doesn’t matter as long as your happy :)

never be afraid to answer people

my friend came out the closet to our friend group this month. We are very proud of him for coming out as bisexual, and though we tease him, he knows it’s playful and that we really do him. (Especially since everyone in our friend group is lgbtq+)

however, somehow the news got out of the group and now the whole of our class knows. He sometimes has people come up to him and ask him questions but he gets angry.

I don’t like the way he dealt with questions, personally. I get questions too sometimes. That’s fine! The best thing to do when someone asks you questions about your sexuality is answer them honestly and with a big friendly smile!

this is because the person that asked you may not be being rude. They may be questioning their own sexuality or sex. They may be genuinely curious as to what it’s like living as you do.

when you do answer, if you keep yourself calm and happy about it, you are showing a good example. So when I answer, I give them the thought that all bisexual people must be friendly and open minded. But if you answer like my friend did then the person who asked may believe that all bisexual people are short tempered and rude!

it’s important to keep our reputation high, our expectations higher and make sure that every miracle we’ve been granted (pride, equality, gay marriage, surrogacy, adoption) is kept and that we show we are grateful for it all :)

how to deal with someone being homophobic

it doesn’t matter how much equality you get, there will always be that one person that has to spoil it for everyone (I’m looking at you Donald Trump)

sadly in times like this, homophobia has actually risen in percentage. This is because once it became legal and accepted, homophobic people got angry.

as I’ve said before, the best we can do is try to keep our calm and show that we are much more fun and positive then homophobic people.

as they say, kill them with kindness :)

now regarding this amino

it’s such a shame to see that the Amino has become much more quiet with less activities, less posts, less challenges and of course much less active :(

I’m hoping that this will soon change, as I will be discussing ideas with the moderating team, so keep your eyes open