Hi guys/girls/others, I have a problem. You may or may not know this, but I don't know my sexuality. I've told myself my whole life that I'm straight (or that I don't like girls), but now I'm not sure anymore. I've never had feelings for another girl, but I'm only 13, so I'll maybe meet someone later, I just wanna be sure of my sexuality. I wanna be bisexual, and I really hope I am, but how do I fall for a girl? Someone on another Amino said that I need to look at the persons personality, and not on its gender. I think that's a good advice, but is there more? Pls chat with me or comment, cause I really wanna know! Pls help!
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I am 13. And I dont know if I'm lesbian, bisexual or straight. I'v never had a crush. But noe I maby think that I have a crush on my best friend. Because I have never felt so happy with a person. Or think about a person. In my life. Please help I'm freaking out!
PS. It's a girl
I'm literally going through the same thing as you I thought I was straight but now I have a crush on this girl I always see around school and it's got me feeling so confused
It's so nice to meet someone who has the same problem! I don't have a girl crush, but I've started to question my sexuality. I feel like I'm not straight, even if I have no proof or sign that I wouldn't be, but it feels so wrong when I think of myself as straight, and better when I think of myself as bisexual. Maybe we can talk more about this in private chat?
Reply to: Confused Cat
Sure that would be cool
I always figured I was straight, but I once asked a straight friend if she had checked out a girl, and she said no and said that was something straight ppl don't do. I then just kept thinking about it, until one of my female friends asked me out. I hadn't even told her i was questioning my sexuality, but when I kissed her, I felt something great. We broke up later on, and I have a boyfriend who I love very much. I know I'm bi because I've been with a guy and a girl, but to be honest, I knew before then. I had a crush on a girl, but was denying it. I suggest you simply try to find a girl to have a crush on. You don't have to ask her out or anything, just a little schoolgirl crush, and see if it feels natural. Then, do the same with a guy. If they both feel good to like, there's you're answer. Of course this isn't definite,you could just not be into that specific person.
Thx, that helps a lot
Reply to: Confused Cat
No problem!
I didn’t realize I was bi until I was in high school, but that was just my experience.
I don’t want to say “it’s just a phase” but at 13 your brain is trying to sort out all the chemicals from puberty and that can lead to a lot of flare ups of love, lust, infatuation, etc. as your brain and body try to figure everything out. The last thing you want to do is compel yourself to like people because you feel you need to experiment or “try things out”. Let it come naturally. If you have an urge, see where it leads, but don’t try to force it to be something more. I realized I liked girls, not just guys, gradually. Some people realize their sexuality immediately. Don’t feel like you need to decide now in order to fit into this “club”. This is a place for Bi people, but also for people who are unsure but may be exploring the possibility that they are.