So I mostly WOULD prefer to be in a relationship with female or non binary, but i dont know if I even want to be in a relationship?
I've never really been in one, i feel like id be demiromantic, greyromantic or aromantic, but im still a young teen so maybe im just dumb and not ready for relationship?
I guess i dont want to be in an emotional relationship, but only platonic, probably because i barely get any physical comfort/attention?
If anyone could help with this that would help-
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Ok, I’ll ramble on this one because I feel ya on that one. I think people who are noticing a lack of romantic attraction in themselves (including myself) have an issue of “I love this person I am very close to very much... do I have a crush on them?” and I think that’s only natural right? Sorry to pull that phrase of but wE lIVe IN a SoCiETy that has always said romance is the ultimate stage of love. Like, the end stage max amount is always romance. But this simply isn’t the case. Friendship, Family, and many other cases of love exist too and they are all separate things. I mean, hell, ancient Greece gave different names to different types of love and that’s A VERY LONG TIME ago. Some people just happen to not have a TYPE of love, but they still have lots of love to give.
So maybe with some time and reflection you could answer the question of “do I really have a crush on this person, or do I feel like it must be a crush because I care so much for this person?” Either way, whichever answer you discover at the end of the day is great! Hope this helped :)
I was pretty much in the exact problem a few months ago, and I ended up identifying as aro. Mostly my problem was that I wanted an exclusive and close platonic relationship, but couldn’t distinguish it from a romantic relationship. Some people said to see if you want to kiss anyone (or a specific person you think you have a crush on) in real life. It might not be as helpful if you’re also ace like me, but that’s just a thought.
And don’t hesitate to pm me if you want some more help, I’m not on here often but I’ll try to help when I can
Hey I'm not aro so i might not be very helpful haha. Have you looked into QPR's? It might be something you are interested in :) have you ever felt romantic attraction to anyone? It's more about attraction than desire for a relationship. If you haven't, you might be ace!! If you're a teen you probably aren't too young but even if you are it's totally ok to change labels!!