A Shocking Realisation (A Coming Out Story)

Mentions Of Internalized Arophobia, Peer Pressure and Toxic Relationships.

Introduction

Hello everyone, now I don't normally make these sort of posts but I thought it was important to since I recently made an important realisation about myself that has taught me so much about myself and that people pleasing people is very toxic. Dating is tricky but thanks to this realisation I now know how careful I have to think relationships through.

Coming Out!!!

Hello everyone my name is Melody and I'm proud to say that I am Demiromantic and Panromantic Asexual. I knew the Asexual part but I never figured out the Demiromantic part until I tried to date this boy. The thought of a boy having a crush on me is nice but he confessed two months after knowing me. Whilst this drama happened I kept panicking that I didn't know him enough and felt like our relationship changed far too quickly. So lets just say that this resulted in the biggest crisis since my Gender Identity. Was I Aromantic Asexual but no that couldn't be right as I still wanted to marry someday than I just thought I'm broken for not being madly in love with this boy before ing the term Demiromantic and feeling like it best described what I was feeling. I now realise that the boy wasn't right for me and not what I actually need in a relationship. It's been weird coming to with the fact I need to form a close bond with someone in order to feel romantic attraction but now I understand the importance of spreading awareness and being proud.

What Is Demiromantic

Demiromantic sits on the same spectrum as Demisexual however instead of needing to form a bond with someone to feel sexual attraction, people who are Demiromantic need to form a close with someone in order to feel romantic attraction. The flag is similar to the Demisexual accept instead of having a purple stripe the Demiromantic Flag has a green stripe which is taken from the Aromantic Flag.

Conclusion

If your still discovering your identity your absolutely valid and its important to take it at a slow pace. You can be on both the Ace and Aromantic spectrum and your not broken for the way you feel. You don't need fixing for something you can't help and feeling like this is not a choice. You were born this way baby!

I hope my coming out story can help you all.

-Melody-

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