So context, I'm talking with a friend, minding my own business when I mention my mother. Then this girl who I barely know and is sitting at the same table says to me, why don't you ever talk about your dad?
I just stared at her like she was the dumbest person alive because she doesn't know me so why is she bothered with who I talk about. Anyways I say that I don't have a dad and she goes. "Oh he left for the milk" and giggles a little.
This girl is in college, we are all in college, why is she making this kind of joke. So I clap back with the truth. "No he actually died in a motorcycle collision that was a hit and run."
She immediately stops laughing and apologizes and says it's so sad that I got to know my dad and he died.
I'ma be honest, most of the info I know about my dad came after he died, so I didn't really know him that well considering he was either always at work or hanging with friends. On some occasions he would be home but only for like 3 hours before he had to go do something.
I didn't really know my dad and he died when I was young, but don't turn this around and do all this shit and don't give me pity. I've had enough of people being sorry for me that I didn't have a dad around for a while. Why?
Is it not normal for a kid to not have a father figure present, because I've met many people who don't have father figures in their lives for many other reasons. I just don't need your pity.
Also that out for the milk "joke" is so over used and just not funny. I've heard many stories about my dad and I'm sure he would have walked out if he wanted to. It seemed like he gave less of a shit about my mom and I do if he did disappear one day it's still not funny.
Why are humans like this, what happened to just saying oh I'm sorry for your loss, then moving on. But no we either don't have no empathy/sympathy or we drag it on and make it a person's whole personality that they don't have a certain thing and we should feel bad for them all the time.
Now this girl only knows me as the kid who lost his dad at a young age and won't talk to me about anything else. Just shut up please.
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