I hate how people idolize being an only child. Sure we don't have to deal with siblings fighting, we aren't put on babysitter duty all the time, and we don't have to share our stuff because there's no one whining and complaining about them not getting something we have.
But here's my issue with being an only child. It's hard to make friends and keep friends because I haven't had experience before with siblings. I have all the weight of parental pressure put on me, and no one to really vent to that understands what I'm going through. It took years for me to learn how to be polite to others and share my things because I've never been forced to share before. I have major developmental delays when it comes to reading others emotions based on my actions because I never had a sibling to be the test dummy for my actions and words. I've always had a hard time understanding that what I said was wrong until teachers and other authority figures told me that I can't say specific things to another human being because I had no one else but myself. I've had to learn to keep myself entertained when no one else was there, and that led to a lot of me talking to myself and developing problems with making friends as well. People think it's weird that I have a strange sense of loneliness even though the only people to talk to in the house were my parents. It's not normal for a child's best friend to be one or both of their parents, but that's something that happens with a lot of only children, including myself.
I don't feel well equipped for the real world because of these things. I feel like I'm always alone. One thing I've noticed is that dmdd developed in me and many other only children that I met. Dmdd is a mood disorder that basically makes you cry over spilled milk. I'm not kidding, you're having a pretty good day and then BAM! One bad thing happens and you're throwing a tantrum when it's really not that big of a deal.
I just don't get why people idolize being an only child when I wish that I had someone around my age to hang out with, to play with, to argue with, to learn from. Hell even just have a simple conversation with. I wish I had the sibling experience because I am stunted in so many ways emotionally.
You don't have to agree with me, this was mostly mine and other people's experiences that I've known over the years.
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